A Little Pre-Ceremony Tip From Rusty
Greetings Brides to be. It is my hope to dispense to you not just a whole bunch of information that may be useful to you, but the real gems of information I can give. I think it is my duty to present to you these gems because I attend so many weddings, and invariably when someone follows a few simple guidelines AT the ceremony, all ends up going predominately well.
The main part of this advice can be summed up in one word...
DELEGATE!
OK, perhaps I meant one word and an exclamation point. Look, every bride gets wrapped up in the details. And that is a very very good thing. Speaking from the male perspective (and my wife will totally attest to this) if the bride does not pay attention to the details, no one will. However, there is a time to give the reins to someone else. While that may make every brides heart beat quick and the breath get short for a few seconds, please don't stop reading there. Here is why it is not only important, but actually for the best.
I, being the owner of a successful wedding and event videography company, can tackle this aspect from two sides because I get to see all of it from every angle.
First, from the bride's angle. Many brides are worried about being perceived as a bridezilla. The control freak who rears her green head up at the first sign of trouble. This in and of itself puts undo stress on the bride and when something goes wrong it may affect how she deals with the problem. If she does ALL the planning... and then leaves all the details on the morning of the wedding to a trusted friend or family member not in the bridal party, they get to deal with making sure everything goes as planned.
Also from the bride's angle... what happens if this person who has been left in charge is faced with something she does not know the answer to? Ah... therein lies the beauty of this plan of attack. The bride only has a single person who comes to her asking questions. Why? Because guests quickly realize even without being told who the Go To person is. This person is identified by coordinating the groomsmen, helping the flower girls, whispering secretively to the bride and groom etc... So when something goes wrong guess who they go to...
A) The Bride
B) The Go To Person
If you chose B, you are 98% right... There is always 2 out of every 100, but that is far better than 100 out of 100.
From the perspective of the service provider it is a beauty because I do all the planning with the bride and if I have any questions or concerns, I do not have to interrupt the bride or groom while the experience a day that was made for them.
